Master “interuptious spontaneous”.

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I’m guilty of interrupting from enthusiasm, however I have found people will cut me off, change the subject or interject something that isn’t relevant and takes over the conversation.

I stop talking when interrupted and often become disengaged and frustrated. So it’s easier for me to just end the conversation.

Most folks don’t even notice and continue talking.

This is a good article on understanding how to process what to do, and how to interrupt what they are really intending.

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Why People Interrupt (and what to do about it)

Marion Grobb Finkelstein – Tuesday, August 02, 2011

Why People Interrupt (and what to do about it)

Have you ever been speaking with a colleague, client, boss or employee and it seems no matter what you do, you keep getting interrupted? You begin a sentence, then suddenly, someone jumps in to complete it. Even if the person is right on target with your thoughts, you find it frustrating. Worse yet, is when the interrupter takes your half-finished thought in a completely different direction than you’d intended. And he or she would have known that, if he or she had only let you finish without interrupting. Grrrr.

Maddening, isn’t it? Makes you feel like you’re not being heard. If it happens often enough, you may even stop injecting comments into the conversation. “Why bother?”, you tell yourself, “I’m only going to be cut off”. Soon you convince yourself it’s not worth the effort. Further, you conclude that the person interrupting is an insensitive boor who is so intent on getting his or her message out, that they walk all over yours.

The end result? Your relationship suffers. You feel a great sense of disconnect toward this person, perhaps even anger and resentment.

At a moment like this, you have a choice. You can allow negative emotions to usurp you, or you can choose an alternate path (and I hope you choose this one):  you can shift your thinking by asking yourself if their behavior is intentional.

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